standardUser 18 hours ago

> Cantsbee, also a silverback, led his group for 22 years -- the longest dominance tenure ever recorded -- and fathered at least 28 offspring. He was known for his authoritative but peaceful nature, rarely initiating or entering fights, but was quick to protect others and resolve conflicts in the group. He had a particularly close relationship with his son Gicurasi, whose mother left when he was young, and who eventually took over leadership of the group in Cantsbee's final years. When Cantsbee later became ill, he chose to leave the group, spending his final months alone, except for one brief visit to the group shortly before his death.

This last paragraph is almost hidden by the ads, but worth reading.

  • bee_rider 18 hours ago

    Goddamn, if we’re the ones with the enormous brains, how come that gorilla figured out life so much better?

    • colechristensen 15 hours ago

      Most people's obituaries sound like that.

      It reads in exactly the same tone as you'd get for an obit of a small town mayor, CEO, or really any leader.

      • jajko 14 hours ago

        Yes but those would be often omitting some proper personal shit from their lives. We don't (need to) do such things for gorilla pack leader.

        If you properly look around and sometimes go deeper than pleasant very few people are uncritically good people from various angles.

        • selbyk 14 hours ago

          Nor are animals.

        • colechristensen 13 hours ago

          >We don't (need to) do such things for gorilla pack leader.

          Need to? Maybe not. But I can imagine the folks who studied these animals feeling a similar sort of attachment and desire to portray positivity in writing a gorilla obituary.

    • _jab 17 hours ago

      Is fathering 28 offspring your idea of a better life?

      • bee_rider 16 hours ago

        I dunno. I’m not sure how to calibrate that to human standards—I’m sure gorilla parenting is not quite as involved as human parenting.

      • tough 17 hours ago

        at least that gorilla seemed more caring of his 28 offspring and his community than say some billionaire's obsessed with having children...

      • sandworm101 14 hours ago

        Assuming a stable population, if some males are fathering dozens of offspring, the bulk of males are probably fathering zero. Are those males still part of society or are then shunned/killed? What does the life of a not-dominant male look like? One who isn't the king's favorite?

      • dyauspitr 16 hours ago

        Yes, I would have as many children as I could afford to comfortably raise.

apt-apt-apt-apt 19 hours ago

"For example, our study found that strong and stable social bonds are generally linked to less illness in female gorillas -- but more illness in males. ... the stress of this may reduce their immune function.""

Ah, this must explain why I have rarely been sick these days.

  • N2yhWNXQN3k9 19 hours ago

    > Ah, this must explain why I have rarely been sick these days.

    Because you are a gorilla?

55555 15 hours ago

“Can’t we move past that and be friends again?”

“Dude you ate my newborn baby.”

TechDebtDevin 19 hours ago

This doesn't answer the question we're all wondering..

  • chasil 18 hours ago

    Life really answers that question for you.

    If you are successful and established, friendship often means obligation. Money, skill, resources and effort are requested, sometimes politely, sometimes not.

    If you are not successful and established, finding someone to engage in this relationship can provide significant advantage.

    Some might say "a real friend would not ask such things, what you speak of are fairweather friends."

    I would reply, "have you ever found your perfect equal in a friendship?"

    I haven't.

    https://en.m.wiktionary.org/wiki/fair-weather_friend

    • N2yhWNXQN3k9 18 hours ago

      > have you ever found your perfect equal in a friendship

      In my experience, if you somehow keep some of your close friends that you had early in life, some of them end up eerily similar to you late in life.

      • chasil 17 hours ago

        I am working towards being an expatriate in my retirement, so that really isn't an option.

    • The28thDuck 17 hours ago

      I don’t think it’s about being equal. To think about it selfishly, then we would have nothing to gain from it. Friendship, like many relationships, is about the unique equilibrium struck that makes you both feel and be better, more than if you had just been an individual. It’s about strengthening each others weaknesses. Rising tide lifts all boats

      • thomquaid 16 hours ago

        I think it is about that. Many of the social behaviors didnt evolve individually, and the social behaviors that end up selected for produced tribes. The group can be more fit than the sum of its parts, and both sides benefit from friendship because two people are about three times as strong working together vs the twice as strong you would expect.

      • chasil 17 hours ago

        No, it is not about that.

        All of our behaviors were ruthlessly selected by evolution in the 60k years since we emerged as a species.

        The behaviors were never about the individual. We kept them because they reproduced.

    • TechDebtDevin 6 hours ago

      Guys the question I was referring to, is who would win in a fight. 100 men or one Gorilla......

    • thrownblown 18 hours ago

      A real friend will help me fight a gorilla whether there are 100 of us or not

      • bluefirebrand 15 hours ago

        When you say "I could fight that Gorilla on my own no problem", a real friend would say "yeah you definitely could, but I got your back"

    • anal_reactor 17 hours ago

      One of my biggest problems is that I'm very good at managing my life on my own, yet my primitive brain keeps screaming "you're alone! this means you might die any moment and nobody will help you!".

      > I would reply, "have you ever found your perfect equal in a friendship?"

      I guess the point of friendships is to find people with whom the exchange is fair. As in, I have something they want, they have something I want, we exchange this.

      • galaxyLogic 15 hours ago

        Yes but what we exchange is "friendship" and "love". We want to feel loved. I assume that has a biological basis.

        The transactional relationship is a different thing, it is a business relationship. You don't have to be a friend with someone you exchange things with.

        • jajko 14 hours ago

          And with good friend the necessary part to exchange are good times shared together.

      • mettamage 14 hours ago

        For me it’s more about vibes. If I find what you say fun, then let’s be friends.

    • mock-possum 14 hours ago

      Honestly man I’m sorry to hear that - and I hope you haven’t given up looking.

  • bee_rider 18 hours ago

    This time the gorillas have friends. 100 gorillas could definitely kill an unarmed dude.

    Actually one Dunbar number of gorillas vs one Dunbar number of humans could be a good spin on this meme.

    • thrownblown 18 hours ago

      100 gorillas could definitely kill the most well armed dude

      • thaumasiotes 16 hours ago

        Armaments have a pretty high top end. If I'm armed with a missile-launching submarine, I'm confident that 100 gorillas will never be able to touch me.

        • bee_rider 3 hours ago

          We’d have to set some bounds here. I think one guy would have trouble operating a submarine.

          Tanks are typically crewed of course… but in theory, a guy could patiently go around and man every station… I wonder if 100 sufficiently motivated gorillas could damage a tank from the outside.

          • thaumasiotes 2 hours ago

            If you want to consider armaments that are routinely crewed by one guy, a bomber will have the same property of being easily capable of killing all 100 gorillas at the same time that they lack the ability to even try to attack it.

            • bee_rider 2 hours ago

              Yah. My main answer is a man on a bicycle with a rifle and a backpack full of bullets. Somehow having a powered vehicle seems against the spirit of the thing, although really is it just a fundamentally silly topic anyway!

        • BobaFloutist 16 hours ago

          I think they were probably limiting armaments to things you could carry in your arms.

          Which would make it a lot harder.

          • bee_rider 16 hours ago

            I could carry a bicycle, a backpack of bullets, and some kind of rifle… I think it really depends on the specifics of the scenario (how far apart do we start and is it flat ground?)

  • wonderwonder 16 hours ago

    100 men win. But some of them aren't going to make it

klank 19 hours ago

The stories of Maggie, Titus, and Cantsbee were poignant and I found worth reading to reflect on our own humanity. I recommend reading for that reason alone.

Alex_001 17 hours ago

Gorilla is very interesting. Reminded me of the late Coco...